It was quiet in the house…too quiet. Baby sister was down for a nap so that left the 2 year old. I put down the laundry I was folding and set off to find her. I walked into the bathroom to find her standing on her tippy toes looking into the mirror with my eye lash curler. She turned to me, smiled so bright and said “I’m doing my eye lashes!” She was so proud to be doing what she sees Mommy doing! Whenever I’m getting ready to go somewhere she always finds me in the bathroom doing my makeup so she can have some powder too.
I have to say, it’s pretty cute. It’s pretty awesome to have a mini me. Someone who looks up to me and wants to do what I do and say what I say. What a huge responsibility though! If I really think about it, being my children’s role model can get pretty intimidating. They are watching every single move I make. Listening to every word I say along with the tone I’m saying it in. I remember shortly after Arrow turned 2 she was an expert sigher. I didn’t realize I sighed so much until she started doing it right after I would! When I saw her in the bathroom trying to curl her eye lashes it dawned on me that she is already picking up little things that girls do. It immediately brought to mind several passages.
Proverbs 31:30 30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Titus 2:3-5 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
1 Peter 3:3-4 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Now I don’t think these verses mean we have to give up the external things completely. Makeup, jewelry, and clothes are all very fun and important. Our individual styles help describe who we are, give us a little confidence, and make us look good for our men. We should take care ourselves in this way. But the deeper importance is that we should look as beautiful on the inside. I don’t want my daughter to think that makeup makes her pretty, I want her to know that her attitude and spirit make her pretty. It’s her smile, her sense of humor, her kindness towards others, and her love for the Lord.
This isn’t just important for girls, it’s for boys too! Mothers should be the role models their boys look up to for what they want in their future spouse. It’s important for them to know what real beauty is. So let’s break these verses down in an easy to read list.
Fear of the Lord (Respect the Lord)
Reverent in behavior (again, Respectful)
Teaching what is good; Love your Husband and Children
Working at home
Submissive to your Husband
Gentle and Quiet Spirit
This last one I really love. Do you want imperishable beauty!? Then practice adorning your heart with a gentle and quiet spirit, which Peter says in God’s sight is very precious! I mean, wow, just wow. We don’t see that very much in today’s world do we? It’s so sad to me there is such a big group of feminists out there who are confused and don’t know what true femininity is and how beautiful and strong it actually does make us. My hope is for us as Christian Mothers to encourage one another and our children to be truly beautiful so we raise up a generation that isn’t so broken and confused. We can do it! (Enter “We Can Do It” poster here 😉 )
“Make-up can only make you look pretty on the outside but it doesn’t help if your ugly on the inside. Unless you eat the make-up.”― Audrey Hepburn