Wear Dignity not a Bikini

July 5th 1946.  The day the Bikini -the smaller than the world’s smallest swimsuit- was introduced.  The swim suit they had to hire a stripper to put on since no other model would be seen wearing such an indecent thing.

It’s pretty crazy to think that most women (and little girls) now walk up and down beaches and swimming pool areas wearing what only a stripper would wear!

Oh how far we’ve come.  I’ve spent the last couple of weeks reading lots of articles about modesty and the swimsuit issue.  Almost every post ends up being “you shouldn’t be ashamed of your body, so wear what whatever you want” and “it’s not your fault if a man can’t control his thoughts.”

I’ve read countless articles from women stating how they dislike the Christian community saying that it is ok and normal for a man to think about women in a sexual way and how they are upset that it’s being taught that it’s women’s sole responsibility to dress appropriately so she doesn’t make the man stumble.

I think they are a little confused about the point trying to be made.  No Christian (that I know) says that it is ok for a man to lust and that it’s normal to do so.  While men do lust (it is absolutely wrong, the Bible says so) it’s not some psycho, you need help kind of thing.  It is reality; it is sin.  It’s something men do struggle with and need to take caution to what they are looking at and what they are thinking about and adjust themselves accordingly.

Now to their point; do I think men’s thought’s are a woman’s responsibility?  No, I do not.  It is a man’s own personal decision about how far he takes his thoughts.  But here is where I disagree with a lot of other women, while it’s not women’s fault if a men start thinking lustfully, as Christian women we should want to make sure we are doing everything we can to help them not do so.

Romans 14;21 It is good not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything that causes your brother to stumble.  (emphasis mine)

Ultimately, what a man thinks is his own responsibility, but as a Christian, it is our responsibility to do whatever it takes so not to make our brother (or even sister for that matter) stumble.  Especially if we know what triggers them.

It’s so sad to see today’s believers become so lax and luke warm.  We have become lazy and too afraid to change!  This, “men lusting is an abnormal problem that they need to deal with, so I’m not going to accommodate them anymore and wear what I want” is just a huge excuse and utter nonsense.  It’s passing the blame instead on focusing on yourself.  What they are really saying is, “I don’t care about you, I care about what I want” and that is, plainly put, not the way of a Christian.

(Now if a man simply can’t function around women without thinking lustfully no matter what she is wearing, then yeah, he should get some help.  That is not the case for most normal men though.  While lust is absolutely wrong, it is still a real and common thing among males. It’s just a known fact.)

 

While that is an important issue and men need to make sure they are doing everything they can to not think inappropriate and wrong thoughts, I think modesty and whether or not you should or shouldn’t wear revealing swimwear (and clothing) is about a lot more.

It’s a heart issue.

In my mind, modesty and the argument about “the bikini” isn’t so much about men, but about the woman wanting to wear it.   I want to focus on the “you shouldn’t be ashamed of your body so wear whatever you want” thing.

I think it’s absolutely insane that in today’s age “not being ashamed” means “take your clothes off!”

A lot of the women that are of this mindset are also the ones upset with our society and men objectifying the female body.  I’m sorry, but if you don’t want men to be “objectifying women’s bodies” then maybe you shouldn’t be giving them the opportunity to do just that!  You can’t have it both ways.

Ladies, it’s wonderful if you aren’t ashamed of your bodies.  You are beautifully and wonderfully created, but you are giving away so much to those who don’t deserve it and isn’t theirs to have.

I want to share with you why I don’t wear a bikini and not even a one piece, which really isn’t any better.  I hope to challenge your thoughts about modern swimwear or anything that is too revealing for that matter, and help you realize why being modest is of utmost importance.

First and foremost, I am not my own.  I am a temple of the Holy Spirit.

1 Corinthians 6:19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

I know this verse in context is talking about sexual immorality, but I don’t think it’s too far of a stretch to apply it to this matter.  I don’t believe wearing a swim suit that is very much used for sexual purposes (no matter how much you would like to disagree with that statement, it’s true.  Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue or any magazine cover in the check out line for that matter can prove my point) can in any way bring glory to our God.

I am to be set apart from this word and not of it.

Romans12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

 1 John 2:15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.

If I am no longer my own and filled with Christ, then I should be looking more like him and less like the world.

It’s not about me anymore.  I have died to my old self and have put on Christ in baptism.  If I am to be set apart and not of this world, then I should be looking different from the world and not blending in.  People should be able to tell a stark difference about me.  To unmistakably know who I am and what I am about.  Wearing exactly what the world is wearing right along with them does not set me apart.  It makes me a follower.  Not a leader.  Nor a good example.

But there is another very important reason I want to share with you why I choose not to wear revealing swimwear.

I choose not to wear revealing swimwear because

my body is for my Husband and his eyes only.

Why would I let others see what is meant only to shared with my husband in the holy and special part of marriage?  It is not for anyone else.  I share myself with him and only him because I respect him and love him.  No, we should not be ashamed of our bodies for God created us in his own image, but we were given coverings for a reason back at the beginning with the fall of mankind.

If we are being honest, there is no difference between underwear and a bikini.  You don’t go anywhere in your underwear, that would be indecent.  Just because a bikini has a different name and material does not make it ok to wear.

So not only do I belong to God and want to honor Him with my body but I also want to do the same for my Husband.

Not only do I want to be modest for my husband but I also want to be modest for all men and other women’s husbands.  I respect men enough to know that they are human and that temptation is very real.  Far be it from me to make a man stumble or someone else’s husband for that matter when it is completely in my control to help them have better chances of not doing so.

I know how much my husband greatly cherishes me for this decision I have made.

How very special and honored would your man feel if you made sure that he knew just how special, valued, and loved he is by you and that you want to save your body for him and him alone?

Not married yet?  Good chances are that there is a man out there waiting to be called your husband.  I knew while I was single that one day I was (hopefully) going to be married so I dressed in a way to respect myself and my future husband.  I wanted to save myself for just him.

But here is something else I want you to consider,

being modest is really about having respect for yourself!

It’s important to know your worth and that you have value because your Heavenly Father and your Husband (or future Husband) certainly think you do!  Don’t throw yourself away to the world so carelessly.  They don’t deserve nor appreciate you.

The Proverbs 31 woman clothed herself in strength and dignity. (Proverbs 31:25)  I can’t think of anything further from dignity than a bikini.

I hope you will pray, search the scriptures, and think on these things a bit.  Modesty is lovely.  I hope you will think so too.

I won’t leave you hanging on the whole swim suit thing.  You might be thinking, there is no such thing as modest swimwear!  Well unfortunately, you’re pretty spot on there!  But there is a company called Modli that has some very cute, very modest swimwear.  Here are a couple of my favorites!

https://modli.co/summer-blossom-adele-two-piece-swim-set.html

https://modli.co/ready-to-surf.html

If you’re not sold on those, I just hope that you can agree to cover up a little more if you don’t do so already.  There are other companies who make more modest swimwear as well.  You just have to do a little shopping.  🙂

It really speaks volumes on how much you care and value yourself.  Save and give yourself to the one who will truly love you and cherish you.  You won’t regret it one bit.  I promise.

7 Comments

  1. “I think it’s absolutely insane that in today’s age ‘not being ashamed’ means ‘take your clothes off!'” Best.line.ever.

    My husband has often noted that most two-piece swimsuits these days cover LESS than most underwear. You can’t play in the water in something like that without worrying it will come off. It’s not really a “suit for swimming”; it’s something else entirely.

    1. Yes, I completely agree! It’s more of a look at me kind of thing than an actual “swimming suit” as you said. Good point!

  2. Beautifully written! I’m still waffling on this issue 😩. I agree with all the things you said but I also think there are sometimes other issues to consider as well. Climate and culture are some things I’ve been thinking on lately. I almost majored in anthropology so don’t hate me! There are tons of indigenous cultures out there that don’t have the same sexualized views of the body that our western culture does. So are they wrong in not covering up? Sumo wrestlers wear those big ol diaper things but culturally that’s a relevant outfit. Ice skaters, skiers, gymnasts … are these occupations except from modesty expectations?
    I also feel it’s unfair to assume that women don’t have issues with lust. Why is a shirtless male form acceptable? If we as women need to cover our bodies for modestys sake I believe we should expect our brothers to do the same.
    When sin entered the garden Adam and Eve BOTH covered themselves because they were ashamed.
    I think you and I could go round and round on this and never find all the right answers 😂!

    1. Zhade, you being up some really good points; difficult questions to answer. Nevertheless, those unanswered questions do not detract from the main ideas: honor God, honor your husband (if you’re married to one), and honor yourself (wear dignity). I may be wrong, but I think the things considered in the blog are applicable to ‘most’ women in America since they are not sumo wrestlers, ice skaters, gymnasts, or live in a different culture. I’m not saying your observations are wrong, I just hope that the presence of skimpy outfits in the sporting world is not a justification for bikinis for everyone else. And you are SOOOO right about the Garden of Eden and men and modesty. Adam and Eve were BOTH ashamed and BOTH covered up. AND men DO need to be modest too. But the issue is not ‘fairness’ between the sexes, the issue is just ‘modesty.’ (And I think the blog was perhaps more lopsided, though not unfairly, b/c was it was addressing the bikini thing, and that’s primarily about females.)

      1. Totally agree. I brought up the professional occupations thing because I have a little one in dance. I let her wear a leotard there but not a swimsuit at the beach? She has a friend at dance (who is 3) and her parents let her wear little dance shorts and a little sports bra type thing. I feel like that is pretty inappropriate given her age but then I think well its dance attire….. Its just a hard line.
        Also I had no idea that the first bikini was modeled by a stripper! Thats crazy!!!

    2. So I get where you are coming from. You actually basically just summarized a blog post I read before writing this. I understand that where you live you are a LOT more used to seeing bikinis and all types of swimwear so it’s become more normal for you. I can only tell you my thoughts and convictions about the points you brought up. In my mind it’s not about culture or climate, it’s about God’s word and me trying to make sure I do everything I can to be right in his sight. I will probably get in trouble for saying this, but for other cultures modesty wouldn’t matter because they aren’t Christians. They don’t hold themselves to the high standards that God has set for us.
      It’s unfortunate and hard to have to make the decision as a Christian to not do certain sports or activities that aren’t modest as gymnastics, skating, or volleyball. For my family we don’t watch those because they aren’t dressed modestly.
      As far as your sweet little girl in dance, I don’t have a problem personally with little girls wearing those but just like you said about the other parents letting their daughter wear a more “inappropriate” outfit, it starts young with them learning what is and isn’t ok to wear! I don’t see a problem with little girls wearing one piece swimming suits but I do like to make sure they are covered so I will put my girls in shorts. As soon as they start to hit puberty, it’s probably time to start adjusting to more modest swim attire!

      1. I also forgot to mention that I completely agree with you that men should be modest too, but I was just trying to talk to the ladies on focusing on ourselves! That is definitely a good topic for another time though. And yes! I wonder what people would think if they actually knew the history of the bikini starting off that way! It’s sad how we become so desensitized. A slow fade and lack of convictions!

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