A Call Back To Femininity

March 8th was International Women’s Day.  It’s a day celebrated in a lot of different ways.  Some good and some not so good.  It’s become a day where women take to the streets and feel the need to tell everyone that they are strong women.  I happened to celebrate​ the unconventional way by cleaning the kitchen and giving my girls some good Mommy/Daughter play time.  We had a dance party and shared lots of smiles and laughs.  That’s the best way to celebrate in my oppinion.
There are some women though, that used it as a day of protesting, demanding they are given their rights.  I am a woman, and  I believe that women should have rights.  I am very much thankful for the freedoms that past generations have taken a stand for and have fought for us to have today, but it’s like they have lost sight of they are actually standing up for.
Today’s feminists seem to not understand a very important point.  Feminists themselves are actually putting down their very own gender.  They think that being feminine by definition- quiet, and submissive… is weak.
To that I politely say no, indeed it is not.  In fact it is quite the opposite.
A woman who actions are lovely, gentle, and self-controlled has to be one of the most strongest woman there could be.
You’re probably imagining me wanting things to go back to times of floral dresses and tea parties.  Sitting around a dainty table eating little cakes while conversing about the latest story to hit the town.  While I personally think that would be a complete blast (I love cake), I’m too much of a tomboy to sip tea and sit with perfect posture all of the time.  I would have to hike to the creek to go fishing, or play some baseball from time to time.  So I’m not saying that women and girls can’t do “boyish” things, but I do wish girls and women were being taught what it means to be feminine.  Truly feminine.
This got me thinking and it saddens me.  It’s so sad that in today’s culture girls are being brought up to think that they need to be “strong and dependant on no one!”  While I agree that girls should be brought up to be confident and strong, the mentality that they don’t need to be subject to authority (Husband, Boss, God) is and has been proving to be quite damaging.  Marriages are failing terribly, and there are children suffering for it.  What’s worse is that those children are being brought up to repeat the vicious cycle all over again.  It has been a struggle since the beginning…
Genesis 3:16
To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.”
“Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.”
You could almost say that temptation of feminism has been around since the fall of mankind.  You see it everywhere.  Women demanding to be treated the same as men in the workplace.  They are just as good and just as capable to do what men do.  They domineer and take charge in their marriages.  Gender equality.  Well here’s the thing, we are equal.
Genesis 1:27 says:
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
We were both created in the image of God.  How awesome is that?!  We were both created equal but- we received different qualities from Him.
  What I think people forget to realize is that being equal does not mean being the same.  We both have different roles that God has given us that He intended to complement each other.  Being a man’s helper is not a terrible demoralizing thing as it is so often portrayed!  It simply means, we as females possess different qualities than that of the male.  What he lacks, we have; and what we lack, he has.  The way man and woman are made is to work together and become one.
Genesis 2:24
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
The idea that God made us both so that we fit and work together amazes me.  We can work together so perfectly the way God designed us to be, but only if us women are strong enough to say no to our fleshly desire to domineer, and control.  The desire that we want something done our way and no one else’s.  We won’t take no for an answer.  We will nag and manipulate till we get our way.  If we don’t, we make everyone pay for it with nasty attitudes and mean demeanor.  The Bible has a few things to say about such women as just described:
Proverbs 11:22
  Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion
Proverbs 21:9
  It is better to live in a corner of the housetop
    than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:19
  It is better to live in a desert land
    than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.
Proverbs 27:15
  A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike
  Do you want to know what real strength is, what true femininity is?  Keep reading to see how God’s word outlines how women should act and what their role is.
1 Corinthians 11:3
 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:22-24:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
1 Timothy 2:9-11
likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. 11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.
Titus 2:3-5
 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
1 Peter 3:1-5
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands
    There’s a lot of submitting in there and that word threatens and scares a lot of women.
The fact though, that anyone who thinks a submitting woman is weak and has no rights is, terribly mistaken.
I remember a very good mental picture that a man named James MacDonald talked about in one of his marriage podcasts.  Think of a working relationship as a triangle.  The man and woman are at the bottom two corners while God is at the top point.  The man and woman, both on the same level, are equal but their roles are not the same.
Think of a yield sign (which happens to be a triangle.)  If the wife yields (submits) to her husband the way that she is supposed to, then everything can keep going smoothly, whereas if you think of a 4 way stop, everyone is constantly stopping and going.   Some people think it’s their turn to go when it’s not, resulting in confusion, frustration, and anger and it disrupts the flow because everyone thinks they can bully their way in.
You want to know what’s funny?  95% of the time it’s the man who is the one who submits to what the woman wants!  Men love their women and want them to be happy.  So if you think about it, it’s that little 5% is what is getting us into trouble with our relationships.  Boy, can we throw some fits or what?!
Those very few times (I’ll give it to you, it’s probably the most important and stressful times) is when it’s our turn ladies.  It’s our turn to yield.  Be strong.  Don’t get a hasty hateful tongue.  Don’t act out and punish everyone with your bad attitude.
Be strong, be feminine, and yield.
I heard another preacher say once on the radio to women listening, “Submission is just learning to duck… so God can smack your Husband.”  😀 lol
Not that you should submit to your husband and look forward to the “You were right” comment, but because it’s our God given role and responsibility to do so.
Even if you would do it differently, it is still your job to yield.
Women are an amazing handiwork and tool of God.  We have so much power, so much influence, so much strength.  We just have to practice using it in the right ways.
A truly strong woman knows the great power she possesses in her Godly femininity.
She is strong as she leads and teaches her children in the ways of the Lord.  Her children look up to her.  Always watching her as she responds to times of hardship when she is the strength her husband leans upon to help him as he strives to lead and makes tough decisions for the family.
She mindfully suppresses her tongue as disagreements arise and reverts to prayer and study to see how she should react; the way she ought to in self-control.
All of these things are not a sign of weakness or of a lower position.
To the contrary, to control oneself and to put others first and above is the strongest and most powerful person, no matter what the gender.
A call to get back to true strength and femininity.
I’m willing to answer…are you?

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